I like pretty things, and someone once said that "mama can't have pretty things." They were wrong. This mama has pretty things and loves pretty things. But, I'm learning that this mama can't have sacred things. I know that my walls will get drawn on, furniture will break, stains will happen, and the dishes might never get done. It's never going to be perfect. Especially when it comes to decorating. Instead of perfect, I make due with what I have:
I paint chairs that I get for free. Even when Fern wakes up early and I'm so close to finishing the first coat. Perfect would say "buy something that is exactly what you want." Beautiful says, "no thanks. These chairs will look great painted white."
Perfect says, "buy that desk and filing system from Pottery Barn. They're very expensive, but worth it." Beautiful says, "Don't waste the money on something that can be easily damaged by toddlers. Make the one like you saw at your friend's house. It will cost less than $30."
Perfect says, "hire a decorator to pick something out that is perfect for Fern's room." Beautiful says, "but that's not fun! Make something for her walls-like something from pallets!"
Perfect says, "wait for the perfect shelves that are the perfect height and looks so pretty." Beautiful says, "go ahead. Let John saw down the ones already here. They'll work well and don't cost a thing!"
Perfect says, "a china cabinet is the proper storage for china and dishes." Beautiful says, "oh no you didn't, perfect! A massive TV cabinet will do the job just fine!"
Perfect says, "Floral arrangements are worth the money, even if they last for only a week." Beautiful says, "Girl, just take some scissors to those bushes outside and stuff 'em in a pretty container."
When I have elements that aren't expensive and easy to do/make/create, then it takes the pressure off of myself to strive for perfect. Taking simple things and letting them "make due" frees me up from worrying about the state of things. If things don't start perfectly, then I don't have to keep them perfect and I get to enjoy my life and not worry. That is a beautiful thing.